0 Friend Zone and Escalation

I believe 100% that she wanted
to go home with you.

Because when you take a girl
out of the Friend Zone (like you
did), she automatically has
a high level of arousal for you.

Unfortunately, she's also easier
to "upset" during a crucial period
of your relationship.

Here's what I'm talking about:

When you first meet a girl, it's
cool to be "disinterested" in
her.

(For instance, play "cold" or
"hard to get")

Because you don't know her from
any other girl in the world, yet.
So you shouldn't be 'sold' on
her this soon, anyways.

And once you've got her "hooked"
and really into you, it's OK to be
disinterested as well, because
she's already hooked.

She ain't goin' nowhere.

HOWEVER - There's a small
window in the middle, where
you two are "figuring each other
out"

It's right between when you
first talk to her (one on one)
and after you have sex with
her about ten times.

During this window, it's OK to
be PLAYFULLY disinterested
in her - like teasing - as long
as you both know it's just a
joke.

Here's why:

During this window, she wants
to like you. And she wants YOU
to like HER.

(Many guys think "If I don't like
HER, she'll like ME"... This isn't
how it works)

So once you start a one on one
conversation, you better show her
you're interested.

You do this mainly through touching
her and escalating on her.

Which is where you got "screwed
up"

You see, you stopped escalating
early.

Which was CONSIDERATE
because you didn't want to get
her sick.

However, all she saw was that
you stopped showing physical
interest in her.

So she had to backwards rationalize
the evening to herself.

And here's what she said
in her mind:

"I was attracted to him early
in the night. But we didn't end
up in bed. Why's that? Well...
He got all cold all of the sudden.
That's kind of creepy. I guess
I don't really like him anyways.
Thank god we didn't hook up"

Is it logical? No way.

But people - women especially -
Need to reassure themselves
that they made GOOD decisions.

(No one likes to make BAD choices,
you know?)

And this is how she convinced
herself that NOT sleeping with
you was a GOOD idea.

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HERE'S HOW TO AVOID THIS
IN THE FUTURE:
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Try to avoid the girl you like
when you're sick.

And the same goes for when
she's sick.

There are a dozen of reasons
why it's a good idea to AVOID
being around sick girls...

... And there's an OBVIOUS reason
why you should avoid being SICK
around girls you like.

(You learned it the hard way lol)

So a general rule of thumb is:

"If Somebody Is Sick, Reschedule"

It'll save you a lot of heartache.

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IF I HAD A GUN TO MY HEAD
AND WAS FORCED TO COME
UP WITH A SOLUTION TO
YOUR SITUATION....
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... Here's what I'd do:

STEP 1) Cut all contact with her.

Give her a chance to "blow over"

STEP 2) Avoid all possible contact
with her for about a month.

This is a good amount of time.
Not too long and not too short.

STEP 3) Start "normal" conversation
with her.

Be very playful. Be very non-serious.
And take things slow.

This is all about building a NEW,
non-creepy image of you in her
mind.

And if you take it slow, you're A-OK.

STEP 4) Crank up the Compliance.

Gradually, over the course of another
month of so, crank up the Compliance
she's doing for you.


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