0 The Schleprock Factor

If you have no idea who "Schleprock" was, don't feel bad.  You kind
of have to have been a kid in the '70's to have an idea.
You've probably heard of "The Flintstones" though, of course.
Fred and Barney live on in syndicated popularity some forty years
after first gracing prime time TV back in the '60s (yes...the show
originally was targeted at all ages).

Well, a few years later, producers Hanna and Barbera decided to
spin-off a kids' show featuring Pebbles and Bamm-Bamm as teenagers.
 One of the characters in this now relatively obscure cartoon
series was named Schleprock.

Now to say that bad luck followed Schleprock would be an
understatement.  Basically a dark cloud LITERALLY followed the guy
everywhere.  And whenever he showed up, you could be ALL BUT SURE
something rotten was about to happen.

As far as his personality was concerned, picture "Eeyore on
steroids" and you aren't too far off. Decades later, the show has
been all but relegated to the vault, but Schleprock himself has
become archetypal in a weird sort of way.

Maybe you've seen the movie Boiler Room, and remember how Ben
Affleck dismissed the first casualty during the classic "group
interview" scene by saying, "C'mon, let's go Schleprock...out!"

But I think some of us have gotten to the point where we identify
with Schleprock just a little too closely.

ESPECIALLY when it comes to women.

Believe me, I hear the detailed sob stories defending "limiting
beliefs" all the time.

Guys all over the world have allowed themselves to believe that
they're not good enough to attract a high quality woman.  And even
if they DO believe they are, for some reason they're under the
impression that all these crazy women just don't-and won't-like
them back.

Dozens of times over I've heard the mantra, "I guess I just have no
luck with women".

Well here it is, Schleprock.  You do NOT have a "dark cloud"
following you around.  Not in real life, at least.

Don't get me wrong, I won't begin to doubt that there are TONS of
guys out there-possibly even reading this newsletter-who have
experienced the Schleprock-like phenomenon of BAD STUFF seeming to
happen around them ALL THE TIME.

But luck has NOTHING to do with it.

And that's the BEST NEWS possible.  Because, you see, that means
(as is the case with most issues with women we as guys face) you
can DO SOMETHING about it.

Let me just spell it out for you.

I believe "The Schleprock Factor" follows a very predictable
formula.  And here it is:

NEGATIVITY + IRRESPONSIBILITY = SCHLEPROCK

At the risk of underscoring what may be altogether self-evident
from that equation itself, let's break it down a bit.

When we have a NEGATIVE attitude, we essentially lack confidence,
don't we?  We see a situation and expect the worst.  We see a task
before us, and we naturally presume ultimate failure upon it.

And following logically, we project that kind of failure on others
also.

Call it a "poverty mentality" or whatever, but whether our vision
for others to fail is driven either by our discomfort with their
success OR by a genuine assumption of negative outcome, it really
doesn't matter.

The ramifications are the same:  NOBODY IS GOING TO PARTICULARLY
ENJOY HANGING OUT WITH US.

This goes DOUBLE for MOTOS (Members Of The Opposite Sex).  After
all, confidence is one of the "Big Four".

And on top being a BUMMER, negativity and failure have this way of
being contagious.  Ouch.

It's no wonder you hear so many self-help gurus talking about
"ridding one's life of negative people".  Right?

For sure, simply having a negative attitude may be enough to
trigger "The Schleprock Factor".

But wait, there's more.

Compounding simple NEGATIVITY in the equation is IRRESPONSIBILITY.

You remember IRRESPONSIBILITY.  That's the trait that causes
younger women to IGNORE guys their own age and FLOCK to older men.
 Seriously...it's not the "distinguished touch of gray around the
temples" that does it, man.

Whereas being "responsible" means making solid decisions and
inspiring confidence, "irresponsibility" involves making bad
decisions--including both errors of omission and commission.

Being irresponsible, besides being a strong indicator that one
lacks wisdom (i.e. the ability to live skillfully, based on
experience), also demonstrates that we lack SELF-RESPECT enough to
guard ourselves from BAD consequences.

Think about it.

So ultimately, when you mesh a NEGATIVE outlook with BAD
decision-making, you essentially blow ATTRACTION out of the picture.

In light of all this, let's go down the "Big Four" checklist and
take inventory.

The "Big Four" are:  1) Confidence,  2) Masculinity,  3) The
ability to make a woman feel safe and secure in your presence, and
4) Character.

So let's see...  No confidence?   No attraction.

Masculinity?  Assuming the worst and having bad judgment aren't
exactly the earmarks of a provider OR a protector, are they?

And when you're decision-making and self-respect are at play, how
can you possibly expect to inspire a woman's confidence in you?  Is
that the kind of leadership she will gladly choose to follow?

Finally, what about character?  Well, I don't exactly see
Schleprock enshrined in the Great Man Hall Of Fame.

If what I'm talking about sounds like "tough love", I make no
apologies.

But remember...the fact that YOU CONTROL "The Schleprock Factor" is
GOOD NEWS.

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