0 Should You Show Interest

Showing interest in and by itself is neither good or bad, and yet it can work in both ways. It's like electricity. It can electrocute you or it can help make your air conditioning operate to make life much easier. What makes the difference? The worst quality in building attraction is neediness! If a guy ever wants to lose a girl's interest, then the safest bet is to act needy. (So if you ever want to bail out of a relationship, and you don't want to break her heart you may want to remember that little nugget of gold. Act needy and she'll dump you.) Whether you go in direct or indirect is more suited towards your persona. You may be a very no-nonsense and approach her by telling her that she is someone you're interested in getting to know better. How is that for showing interest? Is that wrong? No. You have to remember that much of the doctrine written by various people chastising you for showing interest is written by admitted ex-nerds. At some point, you have to break away from the mentality of, "If I show interest, she'll walk away." That simply is not true. It's written by people who have reached the wrong conclusion drawn from years of less-than-desirable experiences with women. It was the neediness that drove her away. Granted, you may be a social guy who enjoys conversing with everyone around and depending on the circumstances, (be it a work function, or she is with a guy already), you may have to hold off on showing such direct interest. It may also be that you are the proverbial social butterfly, a social guy who enjoys talking to everyone around. Nevertheless, get rid of this mindset of "Showing interest is wrong." Just because a woman knows you are interested does not mean she'd start losing interest. Being needy is what destroys attraction. It's the mindset of "Oh, I need you! I must have you or I don't know what else to do." This is the same mindset that creates stalkers. A guy thinks that if he does not have this one particular girl, then he will never find another one. That's neediness, and it's pretty pathetic. So what does the guy do? Call more often? Follow her around and other such foolish notions. Meanwhile, he is displaying more neediness and he is killing any chance he may have had to begin with. That's behaving like a douchebag. If you have done it before, it's OK. Forget about it. Just remember to shift your focus to having a different mindset when it comes to meeting women from now on. What's important is to realize that you live in a universe of ABUNDANCE.

By the way, understand this: Showing interest is not always
verbalized.  You can show interest through body language,
your mannerisms, and through your flirting.  

In fact, as you go further through the interaction, you'll find that conveying 

interesting through your behavior will make you more attractive.  

There is a good word for this: Flirting. It's conveying a sexual vibe and interest

through your body language, facial expressions, touching, and tonality. Start focusing on the attributes mentioned in the book and be sure to do the exercises. Shift your focus to having a strong reality, a strong conviction, and the correct body language as well as speaking with a more determined/confident tonality. All of that equates to not being needy. It's neediness that kills attraction.

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0 How to Compliment a Woman

Remember that girls love compliments. If
you've read my book, you will know how there is a little girl
inside every woman who wants to be loved. And this is why if
you make a good compliment the right way, she is going to be
very happy.

       Remember that attractive women are usually used to
compliments. I can bet you money that a good-looking woman gets
compliments on her looks wherever she goes. If she really is
beautiful, she already knows it. What's more, she was born with
her body, so if you're just complimenting on her perfect body,
you're really complimenting the Creator, not her.

      So how can you be different than the rest of the guys?
Well, there is only one thing you need to remember:

      Your compliments will have to be special. In every way.

1) Compliment On Whats REALLY Special About Her:

      You should always compliment on something unique like what
she has done. Don't bother to compliment on her good looks
because she was born with it. Compliment her on a funny joke she
 has made or a skirt she has made by herself. Or compliment her
positive attributes such as her personality or honesty.

2) Be Detailed:

      Always be detailed and clear. Girls love details. By the
way, if she is wearing socks that match with her top, its not
by coincidence. Let her know you noticed.

3) Mean What You Say:

      Really look into her eyes when you compliment her. Also,
never use false flattery. If you say something, then mean it.
Or at least practice till you sound like you mean it. Trust me,
after repeating something so many times, you will start to
believe it. =)

4) Don't Overdo It:

      Your compliments will only be special if you compliment
her every once in awhile. The less you compliment a woman, the
more it will mean to her.

5) Only Compliment Her Because She Is Special

      Most guys compliment a girl because they want a date.
Don't be like them. Compliment her because she is special, and
because you want to. I personally like to compliment a girl and
then leave. This always makes a girl warmer to me the next time
I see her again.

     If you do this to someone you don't know, she will be
flattered and try to find out who you are as you walk away!
(Strike one!)


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0 One thing that ATTRACTS women!

In a research conducted back in the late 90's by a
group of psychologists, nearly 400 male and female university
students were shown photographs with accompanying descriptions
of people of the other sex. The point of the test was to see
how the descriptions of these persons would influence the
subjects' perceptions.

        Interestingly enough, male photos that were described
as "authoritative and masterful" were rated higher than the
ones who were described as "obedient and submissive".

        This isn't surprising, as most women DO want to have
a more powerful man who can control and protect them. This
is especially true for most hot women, who are used to men
catering to them and kissing their arses. They are used to
guys showering them with flowers and doing whatever they
asks, and that's why they find them boring and unchallenging.

        So what's the solution? Start acting like a man.
Stop being an ass-kisser. I am not asking you to become a
jerk or asshole. All I am asking you you, if you aren't
doing so already, is to start acting like a real man and
stop being an ass kisser. When a woman whines, ignore her
or call them on their issues and messed up behaviors. When
she bitches, put her back in her place.


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0 What is Confidence

       Do you lack the confidence to approach beautiful women?

       Do you fear rejection?

       This week, I would just like to say a few things about
confidence.

       Confidence is an attitude that allows people to have
positive views of themselves and their situations. Confident
people trust their own abilities and have a great sense of
control in lives.

       People who are confident are confident because they
are positive when interrupting their own performances. Their
goals are usually very realistic, and even when they do not
meet their expectations they will only see it as a small
obstacle, but never a complete "failure." They dont believe
that they need to be approved by anybody, and they are
willing to take risks because they don't fear failure.

       In contrary, people with no confidence are always
insecure about their own abilities. They tend to avoid any
kind of risks because they are a failure, and they usually
depend on the approval of others in order to feel good.
They also expect negative outcomes in whatever they do,
and even when they are mildly successful at something they
usually see it as a failure because they are so negative
about themselves. They also tend to take criticism from
others far too seriously but never the compliments.

       Confidence is a big key in attracting women because
men who are confident are much, much attractive to women
then those who are not. This is why I have included a
bonus report on how you can boost up your confidence
level in my popular ebook package.

       For a simple exercise, think of an actor on TV
who seems to be extremely confident around women. Observe
how he moves, how he talks, how he interact with the ladies,
and how he deals with tough situations. Now imagine
what you would do if you were him? How would you talk?
How would you feel?


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0 Respect from Women

       1) Have you ever been "nice" to a woman that just wants
       to be "your friend"?

       2) Do you have trouble saying "no" to attractive women -
       especially the ones you like?

       3) Do you tend to become "nicer and nicer" to a girl over
       a period of time?

       4) Has any woman ever stopped seeing you after a few
       dates?

       5) Have you ever complimented a woman...only to have
       her walk away and show no interest...or even look annoyed?

       6) Have you ever had an attractive woman coming to you
       to WHINE about the abuses she has to take from the JERK
       she is dating?

       If you've answered "yes" to any of these questions...then
I've got something to tell you:

       WOMEN DON'T RESPECT YOU...

       ...I am sorry, but it's true. This is EXCATLY why you
aren't having success with women...because they don't respect
you as a man. (I know this sounds painful - but it's true.)

       And here's the bottom line: Women are ONLY attracted
to guys they RESPECT.

       Don't believe me? You know...it's the same for guys too:
We are only attracted to girls we respect. As men, we
can have sex with hot sluts...but we never STAY with them
because we don't respect them at all. So...if a girl tries
to have sex with us in order to seduce us because she thinks
guys are just after sex, she's going to be in a nasty surprise.
Sure...we may have sex with them or even fall for her in the
short run...but over time, we're going to lose respect and
eventually dump her because she's just "too easy".

       The same applies to dating women. We can shower them
with tons of love and care. We can buy them expensive gifts
and drive them to work everyday. We can take care of them
when they are depressed and give them a shoulder to cry on.
We can give them all the "nice things" in life. But guess what?
They are not going to become any more attracted to us.

       Just like men don't respect women that are too easy,
women don't respect men that are too "nice".

       So how do we come to respect a member of the opposite
sex? How do we get hot women to respect us? Well, according to
psychologists, our respect of other people is usually based on
our perception of the person's independence and self-reliance.
For example, we're drawn towards leaders and other "powerful"
people because they are strong and independent.

       The opposite is also true. The "clingier" a person is,
the less respect we have for them. Would you want your
girlfriend to call you 10 times a day...day after day...
week after week...year after year?

       So...in a nutshell...here's the lesson for this week...

       HAVE SOME BACKBONE SO WOMEN CAN START GIVING YOU THE
RESPECT YOU DESERVE!!!

       I am serious. Start walking around with a SPINE...
especially when you're around attractive women. Trust me, as soon
as you stop letting women walk all over you, they're going to
respect you and like you more.

       Here are some practical tips on how to GET A SPINE:

1) Learn To Say "No": Not in an angry way, but in a calm and
almost "indifferent" manner. (Real men never get angry. Real
men put women back into their places by saying "no" to them
calmly. )

Examples:

       "No, dear. We're not going to that restaurant tonight."

       "No, I don't want to wait for you to call me 2 hours
       before the movie to see if you're going. If you can't
       come, tell me now so I can make other plans or go with
       someone else."

2) Don't Be Too Nice: If you're the type of guy that likes
to "be nice" to women and buy them gifts and take them out
to dinner, I want you to stop now. Stop letting them order
you around. Stop volunteering to "do things for them". Every
time you fetch her bottle for her or give her a ride home,
she's going to see you MORE as a wussy FRIEND instead of
a potential LOVER, get it?

3) Be Prepared To Walk: If you aren't getting what you want
from a girl, there's no use hanging around. If you aren't
happy in a relationship, break out of it. Having this
attitude will give you A LOT of power. Once women know that
you CAN and WILL walk out if necessary, they won't take
you for granted anymore.

4) Plan Out Dates: This is actually the easiest way to
demonstrate your leadership and independence. Have the whole
date planned out before you go. Stay in control and just give
her a good night out. Remember that people are drawn towards
those that have a CLEAR sense of where they're going...
so if you plan everything ahead...your date is going to
respect you more.

5) Be Decisive: If a girl asks you whether you would like
to go for dinner or a play, don't say, "Whatever you like."
Give a REAL answer. Every time you give the "let's do
whatever you like, darling" kind of answer, you're handing
your power over to HER. Sooner or later, she's going to
stop respecting you as an equal partner.

6) Don't Care About What She Thinks Of You: Remember that
your job is to ATTRACT her, not to PLEASE her. Don't let
her know that you care what they think of you at all. The
moment a girl knows you rely on her opinion of you, she's
going to lose respect. Here's the bottom line: women are
only attracted to guys they respect, and guys that try too
hard to please women lose their respect over time!

7) Learn The Dating Game: Women respect guys that KNOW
WHAT THEY ARE DOING. Think about it...if you were a woman,
would you go for a guy that stuttered and sounded not very
confident...or a guy that knew EXCATLY how to approach you,
WHAT to say to you...and HOW to say it?

       Remember that women are NATURALLY ATTRACTED to guys
they RESPECT. This means POWERFUL, CONFIDENT, and INDEPENDENT
guys that make them feel weak in their knees...


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0 "The Silent 'R' That Turns Women On.. EVERYTIME"

Courteous regards for people's feelings - honor - value - these
are all synonymous to the word respect, a quality a lot of
women look for in a man.

Women should be treated with great respect and esteem and
this involves not treating her just like a piece of meat.

It is true that ego and conquest weight heavily on a guys list
(maybe yours even) where a guy has to impress his buddies
with a score card and constantly show who is in control, but
this is certainly no excuse to treat any woman with disrespect.

If you want to get her to like you then you must be respectful
to her in your actions, thoughts and even words.

Respect is a quality of CONSCIOUS attraction and when a woman
sees a guy without this quality, he will never be considered
a potential mate or even as a friend.

When you are talking to your girl, maybe you have a habit
if treating her like your male pals and punching her on the
arm or roughing her up a bit, that can be interpreted as a
sign of disrespect, so stop it immediately.

Or when you talk to her in the same manner as you do to your
'bros' using harsh words and sometimes disparaging
remarks.

These are all signs of disrespect which you might not have
realized before because you and her have such a comfortable
friendship, you've seen it as being acceptable.

It is not! The key to getting her attracted to you, is to
treat her how you treat your mother- with the UTMOST RESPECT!


Now, if you behave like a spineless wimp, without any
principles and you do whatever anyone tells you - then it's
going to be tough to make a woman respect you.

None of them likes a man who always bends to other people's
whims and fancy while denying his own needs, interests and
desires.

A woman will respect you more when she sees you standing up
for your belief and principles rather than caving in to other
people all the time.

When you show someone that you have principle and that you
draw the line in matters and no one, I repeat no one, should
be crossing them, then you are sending out signals that you
a man in total control and you won't allow yourself to be
trampled on and used as a doormat even by her.

If all this while you have been giving in because you thought
that was the polite thing to do, or simply because you're a
'nice guy' that can be persuaded to do anything, then it's
time to STOP people from pushing you around and making use of
you.

Women respect men who are 'strong.'

When I say 'strong' I am not implying physical strength but
more towards inner strength as in strength in character.
How can you establish respect to a woman (your friend)?
One way to do so is by saying NO.

Saying no to the woman you are interested in at the
appropriate time, will only serve to intensify her interest
more. This could probably be the one word she hardly hears
from anyone or you throughout the course of your friendship,
but after she gets over the initial shock of it, she'll start
seeing you differently.


And this guys, is what we want.

You don't want to get her spoilt and run to you every time she
wants a shopping partner or someone to take her someplace to
meet someone.

You're not obliged to do so and make it known to her. Say no!

Get it clear that you're NOT her emotional sponge and don't
be. Try being selfish a little, pull back, and you'll find
that SHE'LL be the one to start giving in to you.

And PLEASE remember that once you have said no, STAY FIRM.

Don't change your mind so easily after she gives you her
pleading puppy dog eyes which almost always melts your
heart.

Don't let het have your way with you all the time and if you
change your mind from saying no to saying yes, it's as bad
if not  worse than saying no to her.

When she asks you to go someplace you don't want to go,
say NO. When she asks you to do something you don't want to
do, say NO.

The greatest mistake most guys do when they are trying to
win over a female is being TOO NICE to her. At first, your
kindness can be most charming to her, but soon it will grow
monotonous and it will seem that you are trying too hard
to please and seem insecure to her.

Instead of overwhelming your friend with niceness, with your
pleasing words and grand gestures, try being 'selfish' with
her a few times and piss her off a little lol. =)

Serious.

She'll look at you differently and will have a new found
respect for you.

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