0 Should You Show Interest

Showing interest in and by itself is neither good or bad, and yet it can work in both ways. It's like electricity. It can electrocute you or it can help make your air conditioning operate to make life much easier. What makes the difference? The worst quality in building attraction is neediness! If a guy ever wants to lose a girl's interest, then the safest bet is to act needy. (So if you ever want to bail out of a relationship, and you don't want to break her heart you may want to remember that little nugget of gold. Act needy and she'll dump you.) Whether you go in direct or indirect is more suited towards your persona. You may be a very no-nonsense and approach her by telling her that she is someone you're interested in getting to know better. How is that for showing interest? Is that wrong? No. You have to remember that much of the doctrine written by various people chastising you for showing interest is written by admitted ex-nerds. At some point, you have to break away from the mentality of, "If I show interest, she'll walk away." That simply is not true. It's written by people who have reached the wrong conclusion drawn from years of less-than-desirable experiences with women. It was the neediness that drove her away. Granted, you may be a social guy who enjoys conversing with everyone around and depending on the circumstances, (be it a work function, or she is with a guy already), you may have to hold off on showing such direct interest. It may also be that you are the proverbial social butterfly, a social guy who enjoys talking to everyone around. Nevertheless, get rid of this mindset of "Showing interest is wrong." Just because a woman knows you are interested does not mean she'd start losing interest. Being needy is what destroys attraction. It's the mindset of "Oh, I need you! I must have you or I don't know what else to do." This is the same mindset that creates stalkers. A guy thinks that if he does not have this one particular girl, then he will never find another one. That's neediness, and it's pretty pathetic. So what does the guy do? Call more often? Follow her around and other such foolish notions. Meanwhile, he is displaying more neediness and he is killing any chance he may have had to begin with. That's behaving like a douchebag. If you have done it before, it's OK. Forget about it. Just remember to shift your focus to having a different mindset when it comes to meeting women from now on. What's important is to realize that you live in a universe of ABUNDANCE.

By the way, understand this: Showing interest is not always
verbalized.  You can show interest through body language,
your mannerisms, and through your flirting.  

In fact, as you go further through the interaction, you'll find that conveying 

interesting through your behavior will make you more attractive.  

There is a good word for this: Flirting. It's conveying a sexual vibe and interest

through your body language, facial expressions, touching, and tonality. Start focusing on the attributes mentioned in the book and be sure to do the exercises. Shift your focus to having a strong reality, a strong conviction, and the correct body language as well as speaking with a more determined/confident tonality. All of that equates to not being needy. It's neediness that kills attraction.

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