0 Conversation Secrets!

Let's start
with the obvious:  You want to avoid the classical issues everyone
has already warned you about since you were in middle school.  

These include topics such as religion and politics.  Sure if you 
are a devout hardcore born again Christian, you may find a 
common bond, but chances are if you were, you wouldn't be reading
my dating newsletter right about now.  

Speaking on such topics with strangers does not create a bond but
it rather creates a rift.  Furthermore, discussing politics is a
logical subject that can get heated at times.  Nevertheless, it
does not lead the imagination and does not create a fun, festive,
enjoyable social atmosphere.  Regardless of wins the argument
(or whoever thinks he won), both sides lost out on an opportunity
to connect.  Can two passionate people connect on such a topic?
Yes, but it's rare.  You take your chances when you open this box.

OK, so the obvious is out.  No talking about religion or politics
upon meeting strangers.  What else do you want to avoid?  You want
to avoid boring and dry subjects that only stimulate the logical mind.
Hey, you may be the world's foremost expert on Bridge Building but
save that discussion for the convention.  Please! 

Bridge buildingis not a topic that stimulates anyone to
be moved emotionally regardless of how many cranes it
took to lift the bridge.   Now, if a piece of metal fell
off and crashed right besides you whereyou barely
escaped with your life, it'd suddenly be interesting. 
Why?  What changed?
Suddenly, there was the added element of drama.  

People are naturally attracted to drama.  All TV shows and movies 
operate on drama.  What else is always involved in drama?  RELATIONSHIPS.
Women, more so than men, crave drama.  (Note: I am giving your general
guidelines.  There will always be a few exceptions.)   

If you started discussing relationships with women, you'd suddenly
observe that their ears would perk up.  It's no different than
a guy whose head springs up upon hearing the words "Naked woman." 
To a certain degree, we are genetically programmed this way.  

You can discuss relationships very easily with women.  You can talk 
about an issue your friends are having with their girlfriends, or 
issues your female friends are having with each other, or even
celebrity X divorcing Celebrity Y and you'll observe that it'll 
draw the interest of most females.

If this weren't the case,
tabloid magazines wouldn't be selling millions of copies. 
People want to know who is dating whom and why.  
Next time you are in the supermarket, take a look at the magazines
in the checkout aisle.  They are filled with gossip. 
Is this the only topic worth discussing?  Of course not.
However, it might be a good way for you to start practicing the art 
of socializing in public with random strangers.

As a general guideline, there are three topics that incite a 
reaction from women:
Relationships, the unknown/mysterious, Fashion.

What do I mean by the mysterious and the unknown?  These are things
that make you go "oooh, ahhhh."  They range from things that are 
new-age type of philosophies to ghost and goblins.  I want you try a
simple experiment the next time you are at a loss for words to say
to a woman.   

Casually ask her if she believes in ghosts. 
It's irrelevant if YOU believe in them or not.  Just ask her.  
"Hey, do you believe in ghosts?  A friend of mine was at this old 
mansion/cabin/house/shack/hut/igloo/ranch or where ever, 
and she/he would hear footsteps late at night, except that, 
there was no one around....  it really freaked her out. 
What do you think?"

(Feel free to provide some details to the story.
I simply wrote an outline for ya.)
You can't be disingenuous when telling this.  There has to be some
sincerity to it, and let's be honest:  You have met someone at some
point in your lifetime who has told you a story like this.  
I know I have!  Heck, it even fascinated me and I am a dude.

Present this conversational thread and watch your audience become
engulfed in it.  They'll love it.  So what else revolves around 
the unknown and mysterious?  It's not just ghost and goblins 
that are mysterious.  The unknown can include, horoscopes,
psychics, palm-reading and the like.  

What is the underlying commonality of these topics? 
They engage the emotional mind!
They present us with feelings of fascination, 
fear, hope, excitement, love, and curiosity.
They capture our imagination. 

What if you don't like discussing any of the above?  Certainly, there
are many men who are successful with women who don't spend time 
talking about ghouls, gargoyles, and goblins.  This is true. 
What these men do is find a way to tap into her emotional mind, 
and different guys have different styles.  Some talk about the future,
some talk about romance, some talk about adventure.  


Anything that captures our imagination fascinates us.  Stories of 
adventure do the same.  As a guy, you don't watch Indian Jones for
Harrison Ford's charismatic personality.  You watch it because it
takes you on an adventure.  You should make it a point to talk about
the adventurous things you have done in your life.  

Again, don't misconstrue what I am saying.  I am not saying you ought 
to brag but rather, you should be able to tell stories about 
interesting things you've done.  (If you've been to jail a bunch 
of times, you may want to hold off telling that one right off the bat,
though I am sure it probably has been adventurous.)


Your conversation and stories have to convey something.  One of
my friends is a Harley Davidson afficinado. He enjoys throwing 
girls on the back of his motorcycle and going for scenic rides. 
He conveys adventure, freedom, and an alternative to the 
mundane everyday city life.  

You can learn to convey concepts such as adventure, spontaneity, 
romance, spirituality, in your conversations and stories. 
Please note, not every single conversation needs to have such
lofty elements.  All you need are a few here and there, enough
to convey some of your personality.  Everyone has some of these
traits in him.  The key now is for you to learn to convey 
these characteristics. 

It does not matter if you live in a small city or work in 
an office building.   You can convey what you're really about,
but you must first tap into your own self and discover 
what it is that you enjoy.


*Are you the type who enjoys adventure, traveling?

*Are you the fun, social-butterfly type?

*Do you enjoy doing spontaneous spur-of-the moment activites?

*Are you interested in philosophy and spirituality?

*Are you interested in expanding, learning new and different things,
whether it's new foods, restaurants, activities?

Discover what it is that you want and then decide how you
want to present that.  This will give you an alternative to discussing
the weather, traffic, or bridge building.
Again, avoid discussing religion, politics, 
your ex-girlfriend/wife, and the mundane. 


Make it a point to talk about a recent adventure, pop culture references,
relationships, the unknown, something interesting you learned 
recently, traveling stories, and the like.  Mix these conversational topics
with some teasing that I taught you in the 3rd newsletters and you will see
a huge difference in your interactions with women.

The quality of your interactions with skyrocket.


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