0 Story Telling - Stephen Nash

Well, I'm gonna spill the beans on the most effective way
to tell stories, without all the CRAP that other gurus
tell you. Just the prime rib here:

The BEST way to tell a story to women is to do it in a way that
captures and leads her imagination.  This way, it brings
her into your world... which is a nice place to be, right?

In my opinion, storytelling is the EASIEST skill to master.
If a guy really struggles with it though, I always suggest
taking an acting class - as that helps you understand the
energy required to keep and hold someone's attention.

Here is a sample from my ebook "How To Get A Girlfriend" -
where I cover the PRIME PARTS of storytelling:

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Men who are naturally successful with women almost always
have a sincere interest in life, and in living it to the
fullest.

We are going to talk at length about passion, and
its relevance to being attractive in the final chapter, but
I will touch on it here as it relates to storytelling.

These "naturals" also seem to have a lot of activities going
on, where they are able to test themselves, and grow as men.

Their life is interesting. It brings a lot of fascination
and intrigue all because they have an open mind, and choose
to explore it.

One way that this serves to help them in their lives with
women is that they have interesting stories to tell. Women
(and all people) are captivated by a good story.

The best storytellers always fill their words and tales with
drama, humor, passion, intrigue and mystery. Next time you are at
the beach, notice what kinds of books women are reading
while they sunbathe.

This summer, I seemed to see a lot of romance novels, as
well as mystery and suspense novels. Women are most
often led by their emotional center, and whenthey find
something (or someone) who understands how to
communicate with them in an emotional way, they get
interested.

First - what are some good TOPICS to focus on with women?
Here's a list:

    - Pop Culture
    - Spirituality
    - Emotionally charged memories & experiences
    - Travel
    - Adventure
    - Humorous stories from your life

These topics are great because they are entertaining,
exciting, funny and generate positive emotions.

Also, they are interesting to WOMEN.  My girlfriend, for
example, is not terribly interested in chatting about
football.  But, she can talk about pop culture or travel
for hours.

Get it?

Also, the more interested you already are in a certain topic the
better (makes sense right?).

This helps you to be enthusiastic when communicating,
a necessary prerequisite for capturing someone's
attention. If you have a natural interest in one of the
above topics, it makes sense for you to want to share
stories from your life that reflect this interest.

There are three musts to being a good storyteller.  They are:

  1) Pay attention (see the world around you, and develop an
     eye/ear for a good story);

  2) Learn to communicate via emotions (as opposed to logic);

  3) Live passionately.

  Let's spend a minute now with each of these topics.

#1) Pay attention! - People tend to sleep walk through their
lives. Great poets seem to always highlight this when they
discuss the smallest things, which most of us don't see
and appreciate.

As you go through your life, pay attention to what you see!

Recently, I saw a middle-aged man who was rather upset
at a neighborhood kid. The kid had apparently
just bumped the man's shoulder while walking down the
street. So, the man turned and started yelling at the kid.

However, the man failed to realize that the kid was wearing
headphones and couldn't hear him. So, as he got louder and
louder, the kid simply stood there, waiting for the light
to change, without a care in the world.

Those of us around the man noticed this, and couldn't help
but chuckle at his futility. This story illustrates a couple
of things.  First, this man wasn't paying attention, and
therefore made a fool  of himself on the street.

Second, this makes for a great story when communicating with
women. Why?  Well, think about it...

It is funny, it involves men behaving foolishly,
and it is visual.

A story that is visual is excellent because the listener can
imagine the events in her mind bringing her closer to the
reality of the event.

When telling a story, remember to paint the picture for
someone. Get them involved by creating clear images of what
is happening.

Great storytellers are comfortable using their body, facial
expressions  and voice to illuminate the story.

This allows them to enter into that  world, and have a
similar experience of the story as you had when  witnessing
it. This strengthens the connection between the two of you,
painting an attractive portrait of your world.

Does that make sense?  Seems sorta elementary when you
get right down to it.  But, we never think about these things
and we're certainly not taught it in school.

Each day of your life is full of scenes, scenarios, and
happenings  that make for good stories.

Also, many men forget that women like it when we make
fun of ourselves.  It communicates that you are secure with
yourself. (this is very attractive to women, btw)

If you can tell a funny story which pokes fun at  yourself,
illustrates that you are human and are comfortable with
that, you will get great reactions from women - TRUST ME.

I want to emphasize the importance of paying attention to
what is happening around you. This can help you in all areas
of your life, not just in relating to women.

No guy's life is so boring, so lacking in humor, beauty and
drama, as to prevent them from having any interesting
stories to relate to others.

Here is an appropriate mindset: you find your
life interesting, and the world fascinates you; you,
naturally, wish to convey this to others as you are a very
social guy; you want others to come into your world so you
invite them in with a story.

#2) Learn emotional communication

If women could hit us all over the heads, and in a flash
change one thing about men, it would be that we are
not in touch with our emotions.

In order to communicate emotionally, we first must be in
contact with our own emotional lives. This means being open
to how we are feeling, each and every moment.

Now, don't start thinking I am going to recommend we all
go into therapy - that's not the point here.  What I am
suggesting is that you get a bit more in touch with your emotions, and
endeavor to pass them along in your conversations with women.

Emotional communication is where you speak in a way that
creates emotions in the listener.

The way to do this as a storyteller is to invite the senses and
emotions into the story.

This means to recreate the images that you observed,
and sounds and smells you experienced, and anything you
physically felt as a result of the experience.

You must do this with your words, conveying these words
with feeling and emotion.

Men tend to be stoic, stiff, logical people, governed more
by their intellect while women tend to be more emotional,
centered in their feelings.

Why do you think packs of girls sit around for hours talking
endlessly about how they feel?  Well, it is because their
experience of the world tends to be dominated by emotion.

(VERY important that you "get" that idea - it's pertinent
in every skill when relating to women)

The "natural" is not stiff;  he is relaxed and unafraid to
express emotions.

He relates a story from his life with real feeling and...

#3) Passion!

The next time you go to a bar, or club, or somewhere where
people are socializing, notice the men who have women with
them.

Are they the stiff, nervous-looking guys who are mostly silent
and appear as a deer in headlights when face-to-face with
a beautiful woman?

Nope. Are they the relaxed, confident guys who are just
having fun, joking around with people, sharing the moment
and their life lightheartedly, without the appearance of
being under a lot of pressure? Yes.

So, the ultimate way to be a GREAT storyteller is to
live with passion!

Living passionately is the #1 way to grow self-esteem AND
it releases so many positive emotions into your life.

Ever make your own "Bucket List"?  You might consider that.

All of this helps when face-to-face with a beautiful woman,
and when telling her an interesting story from your life.

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