0 Friendly to Arrogance?!

"Hey Vin, thanks for your emails. they're really helpful

I have 2 sisters and i reckon it helps me understand
women more. I can joke around, play, flirt with girls i
meet(keep it non-serious).Anyway that was before i
started listening to people on their opinion on girls.

Then anxiety began to kicked in(around puberty). I try
and relax and focus on something else, which helps.
Mentally picturing a conversation as easy also helps!
So i've been approaching women and asking for
directions/time for a starter. Everyone is really friendly
and nice! even in asian countries (im from aus,
currently in malaysia)

My question is this. I'm a very high energy, bubbly
kind of person who smiles quite a lot. i've done
martial arts for 10 years so ive got quite an atheletic
body for an asian, im quick to socialise (interact with
people). I'd say i'm really friendly. you'd agree if you
met me.

Generally making friends is not much of a problem
for me. however when it comes to more good looking
people, they seem to be more "snobby". i'll be having
fun while they seem arrogant, which puts me off. what
do you think? the more it happens the more anxiety
i reckon i'll be feeling regarding meeting good
looking people

[the one thing I learned from you that changed my life] I'd
say relax, and from my deduction of your work, it seems
like you advocate that every woman wants to have a
positive energy conversation, and doesnt want to be
placed on a pedastal just because she looks good
(and just be normal)

-Shang"


>>> Hey Shang,

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YOU GOTTA WATCH YOUR FOCUS!
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I remember when I started learning
how to meet people and pick up women:
No matter what people really SAID,
I thought it was a little arrogant or
stand offish.

I thought people sincerely didn't like
me for being charming, charismatic
or any of the things I (well, in my case THOUGHT)
I was.

Turns out: I was wrong.

YES - People are insecure, and good
looking people are no different.

YES - Sometimes, being "too friendly"
seems like you want something from
them, instead of being sincere.

YES - Every once in awhile, you just
run into the wrong person at the
wrong time.

HOWEVER -

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WHAT IF YOU'RE PROJECTING
YOUR DIS-TRUST OF GOOD
LOOKING PEOPLE, ONTO THEM?
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For instance, you've probably heard of
the term "hypochondriac" before, right?
If you haven't, it basically means someone
who believes they're sick all the time
so strongly...

... They'll actually get sick!

And even though that's a horrible situation
to live in, it demonstrates a psychological
trigger you're running into with good
looking people:

DIAGNOSIS BIAS

*** When you diagnosis someone as
stuck-up... They'll act stuck-up, to you.

That's why changing your focus is SO
IMPORTANT!

So I want you to try this exercise, next
time you meet a good looking person
who may or may not be stuck up to
you:

1) Say hi and be friendly (like you usually
are)

2) Find something "human" about them
(For instance, maybe he's got a stain
on his shirt or something)

3) Laugh to yourself, and realize that
people are people are people, with
the same confidence, flaws, insecurities
and - most importantly - emotions.

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HOWEVER, IF THEY'RE ACTUALLY
BEING ARROGANT, HERE ARE MY
TOP 3 WAYS TO BE A "COOLER MAN"
THAN MOST ROCK STARS OR CELEBRITIES
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Bold claim? You betcha. Read on:

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#1: RELAX!
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Even the best of the best looking, and the
richest of the rich has secret, deep seeded
fears and insecurities.

These manifest differently in different people.

In you, maybe they make you tense up or
"go blank" around women you like.

In very extroverted people, it turns them
into charismatic, social MACHINES!
However, it doesn't change the fact
that many a rock star and almost 90%
of celebrities aren't at peace with
WHO THEY ARE, as a person.

Fix this in yourself by taking a deep breath,
relaxing and accepting yourself, as you are.
Flaws and all.

(It's cool to not be perfect, because as
long as you're taking one small step to
get better and better every day... That's
all you can do :-)

Here's a breathing technique I call
Natural Drugs because it'll help you
relax like no other:

1) Take a deep breath, as deep as
you can

2) Breathe out SLOWLY! As slow as you
can go

3) Breathe in SLOWLY! A 6-8 count is
a good length

4) Breathe out SLOWLY! A 6-8 count is
a good length.

5) Repeat steps 3-4

This technique can technically go on
forever (it's a favorite of professional
singers) and it'll make you INCREDIBLY
relaxed, physically, because you'll
get a huge dose of oxygen to your
brain.

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#2: COMPLIANCE
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Sounds weird, right? Get people to do
things for you, and they'll like you more?
But it's the gosh-darn TRUTH!

And here's why: It's called the principle
of COMMITMENT AND CONSISTENCY,
which basically means the more you
invest in something, the more important
it becomes to you.

This principle makes break ups hard,
and even helps a girl fall in love with
you, the first time you meet her.

And when you use it on other people,
they'll be HAPPY, because they feel
like they're contributing to a greater
good: Your life. Your mission. Your
happiness.

When you couple this with Vision,
you'll be magnetically attractive
to ANY person you want to meet :-)

Simply get someone to do one little
thing for you - like hold your drink.

Then escalate it - Maybe they'll buy
you a water.

Then up and up and up. The sky's
the limit.

Finally,

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#3: MAKE OTHER PEOPLE FEEL
GOOD
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Like it or not, everyone's favorite
radio station is WII F.M. - "What's
In It For Me?"

So, while you're trying to get YOURSELF
something -- lets say getting a woman
into bed, or making people like you --
The easiest way to do it is...

... To make other people feel
good.

Give good vibes. Be friendly,
be playful. Give genuine compliments
(at the RIGHT times, of course)

Because think about it: Who would
you rather hang out with? Debbie
Downer who's always complaining,
or your friend who always makes
you feel on top of the world.

It's an easy answer - Making other
people feel good is like giving
them a drug they'll never get
tired of. The EGO loves it!

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HOW'S YOUR FOCUS WITH WOMEN?

Do you get sucked into negative thoughts
when you're around women? Jealousy...
Envy... Guilt... These emotions will make
meeting a woman almost 100% impossible,
unless you know how to shift your mental
focus away from them.

For almost 30 years of my life, I was stuck
in a negative mindset, and it left me terrible
with women. Thankfully, I met a man named
Tony and he taught me The Attraction Code,
which - in a nutshell - Is the most effective
way to "train" your focus in order to make
you an attractive man that women can't
get enough of. Check it out, here:
http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/welcome/ebook1.php
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****** THINGS TO DO TODAY *******

1) ADJUST YOUR FOCUS - Try switching
your focus when you're around good looking
people, or people you envy

2) USE THE 3-STEP SYSTEM for making
"arrogant" people seem human, then...

3) RELAX because everyone has insecurities

4) GET COMPLIANCE because people LOVE
investing their time and effort in valuable
people, and this investing MAKES you
valuable to them

5) MAKE OTHER PEOPLE FEEL GOOD
because people like people who make
them feel good.

Simple, ain't it? I thought so, too.
In fact, I thought it was TOO simple
to finally be in the "cool club" once
I learned these techniques, that I
doubted their effectiveness, and
took MONTHS to try them out.

That was a mistake!

Now, I'm surrounded by powerful,
charismatic and successful people
and we all help each other grow
and succeed.

If you want a stronger - better - social
circle, this is one of the easiest ways
to do it.


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