0 How to Handle Tests from Women - Tyler

Today's issue once again spotlights our fearless commander,
TYLER.

Tyler is the Co-Founder of Real Social Dynamics, who has been
the creative mastermind and main public speaker at dozens of
seminars worldwide.

The foundational principles, concepts, and lessons of Real
Social Dynamics center around advanced material Tyler
created while traveling around the world and analyzing male
and female interactions.

After writing thousands of articles on dating, fashion, and
nightclubs, Tyler began teaching at Real Social Dynamics
Classroom Seminars, and then taking students out at night to
become their personal wingman and instructor at Field
Workshops at the world's best venues to meet beautiful
women during the day and night.

From demonstrating his ability to captivate Playboy Models and
Miss America Beauty Pageant Contestants in front of large
groups of students to helping students get the women of
their dreams, Tyler developed more street-credibility for his
findings and analysis on attraction than anyone else in the
world.

In light of all this, it's only natural that I'd ask the guy
to contribute to our little e-course here once in a while.

Today, Tyler discusses the phenomenon of women TESTING you
during the course of the interaction.

After reading what he's put forth below, you'll be able to
successfully navigate the minefield of a woman's various
tests.

So... take it away Tyler!

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Hey there.

Here are my views on passing when a woman "tests" you.

This is how I see it, anyway.

The term "test" is a blanket term for several things that can
happen.

As far as I know, they all revolve around the woman trying to
break her own state. I'm not sure if its subconscious or
intentional, or if they try to cause trouble because
something on a biological/subconscious level compels them to
do so (same way that we're compelled to approach them).

Some people theorize that it's a way of constantly testing
the male to see if he's alpha, or something to that effect.

Anyway, the point is that the ONLY ways to pass a test are to
PREVENT her from breaking her own state.

During the course of the pickup and relationship, she will try
to RESIST by intentionally breaking HER OWN STATE. It's
almost hard to believe that they even enjoy sex as much as
us, when they do things like this. But really, they just
don't want to get sexed by losers, so I don't blame them.

OK, so all ways to pass a test revolve around the same
thing: PREVENTING HER FROM BREAKING HER OWN STATE.

Options: How to pass a test

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1) The answer she wants, followed by something sarcastic.

HER: "Where were you last night",

YOU: "At home all night thinking about you... but then I
got bored and called over 10 strippers."

This way is VERY consistent, because it plays on her
EMOTIONS. It DISARMS her anger initially - with the answer
she wants, but SAVES you from being a chode by following with
sarcasm.

2) 50's movie style (like in John Wayne films): RAIL HER
RIGHT THERE _H_A_R_D_, or kiss her etc. VERY effective
method.

3) Imitate her tonality, facial animations, and body
language.

HER: "Where-were-you-last-night",

YOU: "With-my-other-girl-friend-last-night" (good to follow
with a kiss right there)

4) Withdraw: If its THAT BAD of an infraction, just withdraw.

This can convey that you have other girls or can at least get
them. ie: Although I LIKE you, I don't need you, and you are
replacable.

5) Push her through more states: Just ignore the comment, and
bust out some stuff to put her into the state you want her in.

6) Utter sarcasm: Stick your tongue out at her, and go
pppffftttt... and start tickling her.... etc.

Notice that all of these ways DO NOT ACKNOWLEDGE her test
directly.

They just play on her EMOTIONS.

DIRECTLY answering a test will FAIL YOU EVERY TIME. A direct
answer pisses her off MORE, whether she realizes it or not.

===================

OK now to the meat of this post.

When they TEST you, you can only pass it by preventing them
from breaking their own state.

They do this to me ALL THE TIME. They TRY SO HARD to break
their state, so that they can resist your advances.

They'll do things like:

-"Are you a player?"

-"I bet you've done this with hundreds of girls"

-"Where were you last night?"

-"Is that your pickupline??? Do you plan this???"

-"You're funny" -or- "You're so confident" (tough to field
cause you can't tell if they're serious or possibly
questioning your intentions)

-"We're going to have sex" (when they pull this on you, ANY
variation.. "you're hot" etc)

-"We're NOT going to have sex"

-"I'm fat"

-"What do you do for a living?"

-"How old are you?"

-"You're too young"

-"What's your sign?"

-"What are you taking at school?"

-"Don't blame the dog/kid/whatever"

-"blah blah blah" (she talks TOO MUCH, and you are
supplicating by listening)

-"we shouldn't be doing this"

Alright, so let's break these down.

***
T: "are you a player"

WHY: She's trying to make you EXPLAIN yourself, which she
KNOWS will aggravate her - as ALL logical answers do - so she
can put up more resistance.

A1: "don't hate the player, hate the game"

A2: "what is it about players that turn you on so much?"

A3: "yeah, I play sport"

A4: "players play with people's emotions and that isn't
genuine" (turn it around on her so that she's accusing you of
faking your whole interaction, to make her feel bad)

EFFECT: A1 is funny, gets her laughing and breaks upset
state. A2 is cocky and turns her on. A3 highlights the
stupidity of the question. A4 puts down the problems of the
girl who is maybe really shy, and is seriously scared
(librarian archetypes, etc.)

***

T: "I bet you've done this with hundreds of girls"

WHY: Same reason as above.

A: "I've done it with thousands"

EFFECT: Shows cockiness, turns her on more. Shows her that
you won't bend to her tests.

***

T: "where were you last night?"

WHY: She is trying to work

A1: "I stayed at home thinking about you.. But then I got
bored and hired 10 strippers"

A2: "chillin' with your sister"

EFFECT: A1 is a BEAUTIFUL way of fielding tests. It plays her
emotions, because what it does is gives her the answer she
WANTS which calms her down, and a funny answer to make her
get turned on and laughing BEFORE she can realize that what
you were saying was nonsense. A2 shows her you won't take it,
turns her on.

***

T: "is that your pickupline??? do you plan this???"

WHY: She is trying to block you from picking her up, testing
your wit.

A: "yeah, and I even planned to meet a girl with (x-tease that
was said EARLIER on in the interaction (yeah, I even planned
to meet a powerpuff girl tonight / yeah, I even planned to meet
a girl with stuff in her teeth tonight / yeah I even planned
to meet a girl with cute bunny rabbit teeth tonight / yeah I
even planned to meet a girl with lint on her shirt tonight...
etc.)

EFFECT: Shows her that you're smarter than her, and makes
her question look ridiculous.

***

T: "you're funny" -or- "you're so confident"

WHY: This is TOUGH to field because you can't tell if it's
serious or not. Just field it as a test because it cracks
her up either way with your humor.

A: "what is it about funny guys that turns you on so much?"

EFFECT: Shows you're alpha.. funny line.. funny guys are
smart.

***

T: "we're going to have sex" or "you're hot"

WHY: When chicks do this it's because they are hyper-obnoxious
attention seekers.

A: "respect" (said slyly, classic)

EFFECT: Show that you're not the type to get all desperate
and takes the compliments seriously. ALSO, show that you
don't get UPSET by the comments either. It shows complete
disregard to her obnoxiousness, and is FUNNY (not insulting)
at the same time.

***

T: "we're not going to have sex tonight"

WHY: She may want it to "just happen" and is feeling too
much like its an obvious pickup that would make her
slutiness obvious. She is also testing to see your reaction,
do you want her ONLY for sex, etc.

She's also trying to break her own state, as in ALL tests.

A: "who said anything about sex? mmmmmmmmmm... guess you've
got something on your mind Wink"

EFFECT: Shows you're funny, and RELAXED... also cocky
therefore masculine.

***

T: "I'm fat"

WHY: Testing to see if you're a beta pacifier type lame-ass.

A1: "You're enormous"

A2: "mmmmmm... more cushion for the pushin'"

A3: "J-Lo is in the house" (for "my ass is fat")

A4: "You're cuddly like winnie the pooh... ooooooo" (grab
her, tickle her)

EFFECT: Highlights the ridiculousness of her comments, shows
that you don't supplicate, cocky therefore alpha.

***

T: "What do you do for a living?"

WHY: She is demonstrating that she can SCREEN or QUALIFY you.

A1: "I clone humans"

A2: "I produce (x-trait of hers) fetish porn. I'm looking for
new actresses" (pretend that you're a pimp and she's your
latest girl)

A3: "Guess" (HOOP THEORY, make her jump through the hoop
first before you tell her)

EFFECT: Demonstrates to her that you will NOT be screened.
Demonstrates alphaness, because it subtly says "I'm here to
sex you, not support you, so it doesn't matter."

***

T: "How old are you?"

WHY: She is qualifying you.

A1: "Guess" (hoop theory, and my answer of choice because age
is SOMEWHAT important sometimes)

A2: x-ridiculous age

EFFECT: Shows her that you will not be qualified, or are so
confident that even if you ignore her stupid qualifications,
you're confident that you'll get her anyway.

***

T: "blah blah blah" (she talks TOO MUCH, and you are
supplicating by listening)

WHY: If you listen, you are her girlfriend.

A: Do you have an off switch.. (mock hit her, then kiss her)

EFFECT: Shows you won't be a drama queen, controls her
emotions with first a mock-hit (bring her DOWN) and then a
kiss (bring her UP). Hits her emotions, makes you
unpredictable, turns her on.

***

T: "we shouldn't be doing this" (last-minute)

WHY: If you answer, you are showing willingness to argue
with her - not alpha.

A: You're right.. we should stop (and keep going with
foreplay) -or- You're right, and we shouldn't be doing THIS
(take off more clothes)

EFFECT: Her body is WANTING to continue, but she can pull
herself OUT of that state by getting you to argue. SCREW
THAT! If she wants to stop, she'll have to do the work
herself. SHE will have to be the one to get up. But don't
argue with her, or it's YOU who helped her to get out of
state.

By AGREEING, you disengage her logical brain, and her body
keeps going.

***

Notice that ALL of these involve the woman subconsiously/consciously
trying to BREAK HER OWN STATE. But by pumping her with a
DIFFERENT emotion (humor/alphaness therefore turning her on,
tickling her, kissing her/passion, etc.) you PREVENT her from
breaking her own state.

You are DERAILING her screening process, therefore getting
into the golden gates.

They always try this stuff. REVEL in it. Because all tests
are ACTUALLY OPPORTUNITIES.

If you're being tested, its a good sign, because it SHOWS
that you have ENGAGED her reproductive screening process.

Do you think that women sit around testing RANDOM BUMS OFF
THE STREET???

NO.

They only do it to guys just like YOU.

So be HAPPY that they test you, because if they didn't, then
you are in SERIOUS trouble!

Remember, ANY logical answer shows beta-ness, and therefore
will make her MORE upset.

Have you ever seen a guy start explaining himself to a woman
and have her LIKE it?

RARELY. Only if it's a SERIOUS incident, and EVEN THEN they
often don't like it.

Hope that's helpful. Try to keep it in mind.

-Tyler



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