0 Female Sexuality

*** QUESTION FROM A READER ****

"Hey Vin!

Okay so I have a girlfriend who I've been with for 7 months
and we've gone to 3rd base but no sex yet.  She says she
wants to wait at least 2 more months.

The problem is I haven't gotten sex yet but I want it and
I also want to have oral sex more often. Now I know I
should respect the girl and wait but it's really hard for
me.

Any tips would be appreciated. Maybe you can give me
advice on controlling my libido or maybe get her to
compromise with me.

Thanks!

Stan"

>>> Hey Stan,

Rough situation, man.

I remember dating a girl for a full
6 months before we had sex.
(That was back in my younger
days... Now, I'll be shocked if
I wait 6 dates lol)

I remember feeling sexually frustrated,
mostly with myself. Because I WANTED
her, badly... But I didn't want to pressure
her.

I didn't want to be horny or needy.

And I felt bad about MY sex drive...
Instead of feeling PISSED OFF
at her "need to wait"

Which is the right damn solution!

Here's what I mean:

First of all, it's not HER fault.

SHE doesn't know any better.

SHE'S been lied to by Cosmo magazine,
MTV... Even her mother and grand-mother
before her.

She's been told that making you wait
will lock you into a long term relationship.

The scary part is: She's RIGHT!

When a woman makes you wait
for sex, SHE holds the power in
the relationship.

I'm sure you can feel it:

I'm sure you can feel her control of
the situation.

What she says GOES about sex,
and that sometimes spills over
into other parts of the relationship
as well.

Truthfully, you want to sleep with
a girl as soon as possible, so the
balance of power swings in YOUR
favor.

However, you're past that stage now,
so let's focus on a solution for you.

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HERE'S HOW TO RECLAIM YOUR
POWER AFTER 7 MONTHS OF NO
SEX
**************************************

First thing's first, you can't just
use sexual tension and dominance
to escalate on her.

That's just the facts. And here's
why:

Because you already "gave up"
your power, she's stuck in her
ways with you.

And if you say "no baby, let's
have sex"... She's going to
reject it.

That's why you want to accept
it verbally.

Say, "OK baby. I agree. This
will help make us stronger"

(You know, throw in an "us"
frame to make it stronger)

And next time you two get hot
and heavy, escalate physically
with her.

Any time she objects, agree
with her verbally and keep
escalating.

It's basic Last Minute Resistance
tactics.

So if she says "We shoudn't be
doing this" say, "I agree baby,
we shouldn't be doing this,
it's so naughty"

And then physically escalate.

After you two have sex, she will
be bonded to you much stronger,
and you'll have more power
in your relationship.

So there's the long and short
of it: Agree with her verbally
(because otherwise she's
going to flip out) and then
escalate on her physically.

Sexual tension and dominance
WILL work - However - They aren't
the only tools you need, in this
specific case.

Hope that helps you out :-)

Next up...


*** LETTER FROM A READER ***

"It took me awhile(but not as long as I imagine it
took you to write them) to read the 120 Q & A you
sent out about a week or so ago.

I knocked out the second 31-120 in one sitting.
I was happy to see my question in the last 25.
I really appreciate all you do, and what you've
done with answering all those questions for
me, and all my pals on your newsletter list.

You could have easily deleted my email, and
thought it was corny(which after reading it again
I see how corny it was) but that showed me that
you are one of a kind.

An individual who truly cares about the men he's
helping. I learned a lot more from that those Q & A's
then from any of your previous emails, for that I am
truly grateful.

I learned it's not about pick up lines, and
different stages of game, and routines to
win over 9's and 10's, but it's about being
warming, dominant, and protective that really
attracts those kinds of women, and that the
key to getting from A - B is the proper escalation.
(who needs M=mc squared when you have that
equation?:-)

Once we men take the time and patience to
apply what we know, and go with our gut feelings
(which I feel a lot of the guys who wrote in had done,
would have answered their own questions) in our
interactions with a woman we'd realize that we knew
the answers all along. Thank, thank, thank, thank you
for all you did, have done, and will continue to do
in the lives of men(and I'm sure women too)
Mr. Vin Dicarlo.

Mike from Mars.

P.S. I have a real question for you with your emphasis
on dominance, warmth, protectiveness, to attract women.
Could too much be an hinderance, or detraction? Like
too much of a good thing losing it's punch?

I can't thank you enough for all of your hard work, and
dedication to your pursuit of our happiness and well
beings with the ladies, Vin. Keep it up. We're all counting
on you. (not to put any pressure on you, or anything. lol)"

>>> Hey Mike from Mars,

Yeah... No pressure at all ;-)

All kidding aside... I have a lot to
say about your email:

1) I loved your email because
it's got great insights into dating
in it.

I especially liked the part where you say
to have patience, APPLY WHAT YOU LEARN
and go with your gut.

That's beautifully simple.

I couldn't have said it better.

And it just goes to show you - Many,
many times, the QUESTIONS I put
in these newsletters are just as
valuable as the ANSWERS :-)

2) Thanks for being so thankful lol

I really appreciate it.

These are the questions I like to
read best, and honestly, they're
the first one's I want to answer.

Because I've devoted the last ten
years of my life to helping men
just like you around the world.

It's nice to hear that  you notice.

And I like to hear that you
"feel the love", even from
hundreds of miles away.

That really warmed my heart.

OK, OK! Enough of the mushy
shit.... Let's get to your questions ;-)

3) YES!

... You CAN be TOO dominant.

However, you made a GREAT point
about being warm and protective.

If you're warm and protective, you
can be ULTRA ULTRA dominant
and still not upset a woman.

Because you come across both
in control and PROTECTIVE.

And everyone likes feeling cared
for and nurtured.

Think about an older brother,
or - if you don't have one - A really
great coach or mentor.

Part of him gave you direction,
ideas and was a leader.

He told you how to be a better man...
A better ball player... Or how to be
better at whatever it is you do.

However, you were comfortable with
his direction because he ALSO brought
out the BEST in you.

He helped YOU be the best YOU could
be.

These sound similar, so what's the
difference?

It's really simple:

** When you're a dominant man,
you tell the people around you
what to do **

** When you're a warm, dominant man
you protect the people around you and
help bring the best out of them **

So when you tell her:

"Baby, grab me a soda"

You're being dominant.

You're being in control, and leading
her to give you compliance.

In other words, you're telling her
to do stuff.

However, if you tell her:

"Baby, grab me a soda"

and when she comes back in,
you tell her...

"Thanks baby, I love how you take
care of me. You're so good to me"

Then you have an added element
of WARMTH.

You're THANKING her for giving
you compliance.

Which is actually you REWARDING
her with praise.

And then you remind her how
good she is to you.

Which is very basic - and very powerful -
SHAPING.

So by adding the warmth to your
dominance, you not only get people
to follow your lead...

... You help bring out the best qualities
in them, more and more.

You can find out a TON more about
Shaping in the Dominant Sexual
Power program.

If you haven't checked it out, I highly
recommend it because it has the
best reviews of any program I've
put out to date besides the Attraction
Code. (Which was an internet
smash hit)

Plus, it's very inexpensive and there
are only 36 seats left in our current
coaching club.

So check it out here, and see if
this program is right for you:
http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/dsp

***************************************
HERE'S A POINT I NEED TO MAKE:
***************************************

When I talk about Dominance, and
when I give you techniques to help
you get a woman into bed...

... I feel the need to remind you,
THIS IS *NOT* ABOUT US AS
MEN - VERSUS - WOMEN!

This is NOT us trying to trick, steal
or get anything from a woman.

This is NOT us taking sex from her,
because she won't enjoy it.

This is us LIBERATING her from
a self-imposed SHELL she's
placed on her sexuality.

This is us FREEING her sexually,
so she can experience the highest
levels of physical and emotional
pleasure a human being is
capable of.

This is us REMOVING the layers
of bullshit she learned from pop
culture... pop media... And chick
flicks full of popcorn theories
which are more dangerous
to her self-image than
Barbie Dolls or an abusive
past relationship.

This is us against layers and layers
of lies you've been told about women.

This is us against the "dance" we have
to do with women... In order to get
what WE BOTH WANT!

This is us taking back control of
our dating and sex lives.

Not manipulating.

Not hurting.

Not tricking.

... And when you KNOW that, deep
down in your soul, psyche or whatever
you believe in...

... You will see your results with women
SKYROCKET, practically overnight.

It is the one thing every man who has
ever been good with women knows,
at a deep, core level.

And it's something I'm trying to
teach YOU, today. :-)


**** QUESTION FROM A READER ****

"Hey Vin

You mentioned that you will be doing a few follow up questions
to stuff you've received since the whole question flood has
happened.

I have a super quick question (funny too) which is super specific
to sexual tension - if I should do something or if it will "break" the
tension by making it too much of a obvious sexual intent being
expressed and scare her away.

So theres this hot girl, we've been flirting and stuff, shes shown
alot of interest and even "shaped" herself for me based on the
little she knows about me, we've set up "future dates" in a virtual
role playing frame etc. Im pretty nonchalant about the whole thing.

We have talked about going out to the comedy club soon when
I told her I came across some free admission tickets (which I did).
Also, it is her birthday coming up soon. I havent communicated
that I know this (found out when someone else mentioned it
offhand in my presence).

The funny part is that there is a Sushi restaurant next to the comedy
club which I happen to know does a HILARIOUS birthday cake for
women, called "The Nasty". They put a banana curving up between
two round cake peices and put a strawberry on the end of the
banana to make the "head". Sometimes they put whip cream
all over the tip and on the plate. Haha!!!

My plan:  since it actually would be for her birthday, she's kind
of the rough around the edges type of girl who talks sexual stuff
often, and I want to increase sexual tension ---I want to go get
"The Nasty" birthday dessert for her either before or after the
comedy show. I would just have it delivered and of course
have fun with it to begin with, but then pretty quickly ignore
and get off of overt sexual stuff quickly.

Crazy I know. But all these peices just kindof fell into place and
Im wondering if & how it would be the way to increase sexual
tension between her and I.

Jesse"

>>> Hey Jesse,

Haha. Go for it :-)

Having fun is a CRUCIAL part of
being attractive to women.

And like you said  - She's a sexual girl,
so she'll get a kick out of it.

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HERE'S A SECRET ABOUT
"SEXUAL" GIRLS:
******************************

And this is something I learned *very*
recently.

In fact, it's something I'm going to
be sharing more information about
around Valentine's Day of next
year.

However, I'm going to give YOU a
sneak-peek, today:

You see, there are 8 types of women.
(No more, no less)

And of these 8 types, half fall into
the category of "girls who TALK
ABOUT sex a lot"

(This doesn't mean half of the women
in the world - It's actually closer to
40% or so)

With these highly sexual girls,
getting her into bed isn't that
tough.

Play it dominant. Play it smooth
and you'll have no problem hooking
up with her.

Thing is, if you want to keep her around
for a relationship... There's a secret
almost NO men know.

And this secret is that SEX won't
make this girl fall in love with you,
at all!

In fact, to get this girl to fall for you,
you need to LAYER ON the affection,
pet names and romance - Big Time.

Basically, since she's very sexual, she's
used to guys getting into her pants or
treating her like a slut.

So sex isn't a big deal to her.

However, if YOU'RE the guy who gives
her romance and affection... Well...
You'll have to beat her off with a
stick lol.

So if you're interested in this girl
as a long term girlfriend, layer
on the romance.

And if you just want to sleep with her
layer on the sexual tension.

(The cake is a very funny idea.
I like to do things like drive really
crazy and pretend to throw her
over a railing on my building.

This builds fear and excitement
in her, which then turn into sexual
tension.



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