0 Opening Women

Today, I want to tell you a story about a
woman who knew EXACTLY how she wanted to be
approached. And I know you'll be interested
in this because it points out one of the
biggest mistakes that so many men make when
walking up to the girl of their dreams.

This wasn't any ordinary girl, she was one of
our PickUp 101 Super Girls. If you don't know
by now, the Supergirls are the beautiful
women who help us out at our workshops. They
come in for a few hours so that you can
practice your approaches and get real
feedback from real women. Many guys say that
it's their favorite part of the workshop.

Anyway, this particular Super Girl happened
to be helping us out for her first time. She
knew what we taught and she was excited to
get involved helping to make huge
transformations in men's lives (women often
love this kind of work even more than the
men!)

So, she came in for her first time to a
workshop and there she was, right away,
pretending to be her normal girly self in
some ordinary everyday situation while the
workshop students approached her.

The guys approached her about three times
before something happened. She got a funny
look on her face. Almost the kind of look you
get when you bite into a lemon.

She wasn't happy.

She even looked confused.

And then finally, she spoke. And all she said
was... "Why are you all using these pickup
lines?"

The workshop students were standing there
motionless as their pickup lines had just
been shot down.

And that's when she explained it all. She
said, "I don't ever talk to a guy who just
uses a pickup line on me. In fact, I don't
ever talk to a guy who doesn't make eye
contact with me first.  And also, it's got to
be GOOD eye contact, or I STILL won't talk
with him."

Now, I'm always teaching about the importance
of sub-communication through body language
and conveying a fun and confident attitude.
But, still this took a little explaining to
translate her woman-speak into something a
guy can understand.

See, she wasn't totally upset with the pickup
lines (in fact, as she continued helping us
in workshops, she began to see how important
EVERYTHING is for a good first impression -
including the opening line)

And, I guarantee, that if you master opening,
you could open this girl with any line
whether or not you made eye contact. But,
that's NOT what she was trying to say.

What she was trying to tell us is how SHE
wants to be approached.  And, it's not just
her, but how MANY women dream of being
approached.

She's saying "Approach her first with your
eyes."

It won't always work, as she may be reading a
book or staring out a window, or she may even
have her eyes closed. (That's why we have the
opening lines). But, whenever possible, this
is the BEST way to open a conversation.

What's more, is that she also said if you
made what she called "good eye contact", then
she would ALWAYS talk to that man. She would
never shoot him down after such a first
impression, so essentially his "opener" was
already done!

She's not the only woman out there like this.
All the women that we work with say similar
things (though it may need a little
"translation," if you know what I mean)

You may see this next time you're out.

Next time you leave the house (hopefully
that's SOON!), take a look around for the
women who want to make eye contact. And once
you've made eye contact, then go approach. It
won't take you long to see that, in fact,
with good eye contact right from the
beginning, you need almost nothing else.

This woman may have had a "rule" in her mind
about only talking to guys who make eye
contact, but I assure you that every woman is
looking for a man who can engage her on the
physical and emotional levels first and
foremost. The words don't matter, it's what
she feels in her body.

Approaching women and getting them wildly
attracted is NOT the result of a great pickup
line or perfect opener. She's not going to
think to herself: "Well... he said something
funny, and he's talking a lot, and he's
definitely got a loud voice... I think I'm
attracted!"

WRONG.

For a woman, the approach happens on many
more levels than just the words you say. And,
ultimately the feeling she has about you is
either THERE or it ISN'T.

There are no two ways about it.

Think about it for a moment.

Have you ever approached a woman and started
a conversation that seemed to go well, and
yet you just KNEW for some reason that it
wasn't going to go much further?

It can be strange to have her respond well to
your opening lines and first approach, but to
feel that, for some reason, the interaction
was doomed from the beginning to only going
as far as a polite conversation.

On the other hand, it's another situation
altogether when your approach sparks a
physical attraction inside of her and gets
her dying to know more about you. You know,
when it just feels completely ON from the
beginning and you're amazed at how naturally
charged the entire interaction is.

So what can you do when approaching that
makes all the difference?

How do you open a conversation with her in a
way that naturally gets her to open up, flirt
with you, and be begging for more?

I'm not just talking about the kind of
approach where she flirts for a minute but
then gives you a fake number or quickly runs
away to find her friends.

No, I'm talking about the kind of approach
where she instantly feels attracted and
instantly sees that you are the kind of man
she'd like to date.

I'm talking about the kind of approach that
she's heard about her whole life through
movies and romance novels and fantasy
stories.  The kind of approach that's only
happened to her a few times in her life (if
she's lucky!)

Here's a secret about creating that kind of
moment for a woman:

There are POWERFUL associations that have
been built up inside women's minds since they
were little girls. Movies, romance novels,
and powerful images in the media all set
expectations for a woman about the moment
when a romantic hero will suddenly step into
HER life.

Once you fully understand this, you can use
your own physiology to trigger those powerful
feelings inside her body to make her feel
attracted even when she least expects it.

At the same time, there are ways to KILL any
chance of her opening up like that on your
approach... especially with the kind of
amazing women that you'd REALLY like to meet.

The problem is there is a LOT of subtlety to
all this that just can't be conveyed in an
email, book, or audio CD... You've just got
to see it to really understand it.

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