0 How to Continue A Conversation

       If you've tried to approach women before, I am sure you
know that the most important thing about a pick up is actually
NOT the "pick up line" itself, but what happens AFTER. How many
times have you approached a woman, said a pick up line, and then
paralyzed in horror when there was a dead silence?

       These "awkward moments" also happen ALL THE TIME during
a bad conversation. Take a look at the following dialogue:

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You: So do you like coming here?

Hot Woman: Yes.

       (Awkward silence)

You: Umm...So do you want a Martini?

Hot Woman: Sure.

       (Awkward silence)

You: What kind of music do you like?

Hot Woman: Classical music. Like Mozart.

You: Oh. Cool.

       (Awkward silence)

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       These awkward silent moments during a conversation are
what I call "dead-air beats". These beats are extremely
dangerous. If they happen too often, you can say goodbye to the
girl you're talking to.


       But don't worry, by the time you finish reading this
email, you're going to be a PRO at keeping conversations going
with beautiful women. Here are a few techniques you can use to
keep a conversation flowing smoothly:


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TECHNIQUE #1: Asking open questions


       The first technique is to ask "open questions" instead of
"closed questions". Closed-questions are questions that request a
"yes" or "no" answer, such as a question beginning with "do".
Open-ended questions are questions beginning with "who", "What",
"why", "when", "where", and "how".

       Unlike closed-questions, an open-ended question make women
talk and go into more details. It also shows a woman you CARE
about what she thinks. And most important of all, it helps the
conversation develope.

       If you ask a woman a closed-ended question such as
"Do you like ice-cream?" you will simply get a "yes/no" answer.

       And guess what happens after? DEAD AIR.

       But if you ask her "What kind of ice cream do you like?",
she will have to answer something like "Vanilla", which will give
you something else to talk about.


Here are some examples of open-ended questions:

       "What do you think about the movie?"

       "Who was your favorite actor?"

       "What do you like about the food?"


       With a little bit of practice, you will be able to have
"never-ending conversations" with the women you meet.


TECHNIQUE #2: Active Listening

       Another good technique is to let the woman talk while
you listen actively. It's MUCH easier to let a woman talk than
to do all the talking yourself. First of all, you won't have to
worry as much about what you should talk about. Furthermore,
most guys out there only know how to brag about themselves.
So if you learn how to pay close attention to what the WOMAN,
not yourself, you will do better than most guys already.

       But unlike what most shy guys think, active listening
does NOT equal "just listening". You don't want to just sit
there and listen. You want to show you're actually interested in
what the woman is saying by participating in the conversation.

       Here are some sample phrases you can use to show your
interest:

       "Wow..."

       "How interesting"

       "Yes"

       "Go on"

       "Tell me more..."

       "I totally understand."

       "No way!"

       "What happened after?"


TECHNIQUE #3: Being Empathetic

       One last important technique is to be empathetic
to women. By being empathetic, you're showing you UNDERSTAND
how she is feeling. When a woman feels you understand her,
a strong bond is created between you two.

       When you're talking to a girl, pay attention to what
she is saying. Nod slowly in approval when you agree.

       NEVER criticize her. Stay away from comments that
begins with "you should" and "you shouldn't".

       If a woman seems happy or proud, be happy and proud
too. Show your agreement by reflecting her emotion in your
response. (Example: "That's cool!", "Great!")

       When she is sad, give her a hug and a shoulder to
cry on.

       Become her emotional fountain, and she will never
run out of things to say to you.


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