You want to know how to get your ex back, right? I feel ya. Getting dumped is one of the worst things a guy can go through.
Recently I saw a life stress ranking list, and having an intimate
relationship end was actually listed as more stressful than
serving a jail term. So if you're ready to turn it around no
matter how bad she dumped you, let's get going...
Well, below you find the most basic four steps on how to get your ex back. So read on carefully!
The first step to getting your ex back is to re-establish your
value. This is important because by far the most common mistake a
guy makes at the end of a relationship is to become needy. He
practically gets on his hands and knees and begs his woman to
take him back, and unfortunately this has the exact opposite
effect of pushing her away.
It's simple human psychology, understood by any competent
marketer or salesman: if something is in-demand and you have to
work for it, you end up valuing it more. And unfortunately, when
you become the crying man, pleading for your woman to take you
back, she doesn't exactly have to work for you.
You'll have the best success, then, by re-establishing your
value right away by sending your ex-girlfriend a handwritten
cut-off note.
Simply put, you tell her that you're going to give her time and
space apart from you, you agree with the break up, and you're
going to cut off communication with her for awhile so that both
of you can have that healthy distance.
You end the note by saying that something exciting has happened
in your life and you need to tell her about it sometime. This is
extremely effective because it appeals to your ex's sense of
curiosity, which is the strongest human emotion there is.
Later when it comes time to re-initiate communication with your
ex, she will be unable to resist speaking with you again.
(By the way, my idea of a cut-off note works so well that I've
seen another relationship "guru" steal it and claim it as his
own.)
The second step to getting your ex back is to build your attractiveness. I've identified
11 traits that women are attracted to, which I call the
"Attraction Dials." Your turn the dials, and you turn up the
desire a woman has for you.
These Attraction Dials needed to get your ex back are as follows:
1. Being a Leader -- You talk and others (especially other
men) listen.
2. Masculine Good Looks -- Women use the word "cute," "handsome,"
or even "hot" to describe you. They compliment you on various
aspects of how you're put together such as "nice shirt!".
3. Physical Health and Strength -- You're in shape.
4. Confidence -- You move through life with self-assurance,
without fear of others judging you.
5. Being Happy and Non-Needy -- You have no need to pressure the
woman or to try to control her behavior.
6. Having Other Women Interested in You -- If a woman knows she's
got competition to win you, then you look that much more appealing
in her eyes.
7. Being Popular -- You have a large network of people you know.
8. Being Interesting, Intriguing, Fun and a Captivating -- You
bring a huge relief to a woman's boring life.
9. Being Assertive -- You can protect those around you.
10. Making Her Laugh -- If a woman is laughing at what you say, it
is psychologically impossible for her to dislike you.
11. Having Drive -- You're ambitious and have passions you're
pursuing
Step three is to identify the mistakes you made previously in the
relationship and learn from them so that when you have the
relationship re-run, you and your woman will stay together.
After all, it isn't any more fun being dumped a second time!
I'm drastically over-simplifying here, but the elements of a
successful relationship are:
1. You're a man who is generally dominant rather than wish-washy,
confident in himself, and an alpha male.
2. You give your woman positive emotions.
3. Emotionally, she needs you more than you need her. (You can
stand on your own two feet and don't need her to be your
psychologist or mother-figure.)
4. You have frequent and pleasurable physical relations with her.
Step four to getting your ex back is to re-initiate communication with your woman after a
full 21 days of keeping her 100% cut off from you. Then you get
her to hang out with you so you can re-attract her.
In order to be able to meet with her, make sure to let her know
that you're totally fine with the break up and just want to be
friends at this point. Be totally nonchalant and cool. You want
her to wonder what's changed and what's going on with you.
Then when the two of you hang out, you turn her Attraction Dials
and completely astound her and sweep her off her feet.
That's how you get your ex back in your life...Done!
Recently I saw a life stress ranking list, and having an intimate
relationship end was actually listed as more stressful than
serving a jail term. So if you're ready to turn it around no
matter how bad she dumped you, let's get going...
Well, below you find the most basic four steps on how to get your ex back. So read on carefully!
The first step to getting your ex back is to re-establish your
value. This is important because by far the most common mistake a
guy makes at the end of a relationship is to become needy. He
practically gets on his hands and knees and begs his woman to
take him back, and unfortunately this has the exact opposite
effect of pushing her away.
It's simple human psychology, understood by any competent
marketer or salesman: if something is in-demand and you have to
work for it, you end up valuing it more. And unfortunately, when
you become the crying man, pleading for your woman to take you
back, she doesn't exactly have to work for you.
You'll have the best success, then, by re-establishing your
value right away by sending your ex-girlfriend a handwritten
cut-off note.
Simply put, you tell her that you're going to give her time and
space apart from you, you agree with the break up, and you're
going to cut off communication with her for awhile so that both
of you can have that healthy distance.
You end the note by saying that something exciting has happened
in your life and you need to tell her about it sometime. This is
extremely effective because it appeals to your ex's sense of
curiosity, which is the strongest human emotion there is.
Later when it comes time to re-initiate communication with your
ex, she will be unable to resist speaking with you again.
(By the way, my idea of a cut-off note works so well that I've
seen another relationship "guru" steal it and claim it as his
own.)
The second step to getting your ex back is to build your attractiveness. I've identified
11 traits that women are attracted to, which I call the
"Attraction Dials." Your turn the dials, and you turn up the
desire a woman has for you.
These Attraction Dials needed to get your ex back are as follows:
1. Being a Leader -- You talk and others (especially other
men) listen.
2. Masculine Good Looks -- Women use the word "cute," "handsome,"
or even "hot" to describe you. They compliment you on various
aspects of how you're put together such as "nice shirt!".
3. Physical Health and Strength -- You're in shape.
4. Confidence -- You move through life with self-assurance,
without fear of others judging you.
5. Being Happy and Non-Needy -- You have no need to pressure the
woman or to try to control her behavior.
6. Having Other Women Interested in You -- If a woman knows she's
got competition to win you, then you look that much more appealing
in her eyes.
7. Being Popular -- You have a large network of people you know.
8. Being Interesting, Intriguing, Fun and a Captivating -- You
bring a huge relief to a woman's boring life.
9. Being Assertive -- You can protect those around you.
10. Making Her Laugh -- If a woman is laughing at what you say, it
is psychologically impossible for her to dislike you.
11. Having Drive -- You're ambitious and have passions you're
pursuing
Step three is to identify the mistakes you made previously in the
relationship and learn from them so that when you have the
relationship re-run, you and your woman will stay together.
After all, it isn't any more fun being dumped a second time!
I'm drastically over-simplifying here, but the elements of a
successful relationship are:
1. You're a man who is generally dominant rather than wish-washy,
confident in himself, and an alpha male.
2. You give your woman positive emotions.
3. Emotionally, she needs you more than you need her. (You can
stand on your own two feet and don't need her to be your
psychologist or mother-figure.)
4. You have frequent and pleasurable physical relations with her.
Step four to getting your ex back is to re-initiate communication with your woman after a
full 21 days of keeping her 100% cut off from you. Then you get
her to hang out with you so you can re-attract her.
In order to be able to meet with her, make sure to let her know
that you're totally fine with the break up and just want to be
friends at this point. Be totally nonchalant and cool. You want
her to wonder what's changed and what's going on with you.
Then when the two of you hang out, you turn her Attraction Dials
and completely astound her and sweep her off her feet.
That's how you get your ex back in your life...Done!
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