0 Dating Rules of Women

These "Rules of Women" are
generalizations--you will, of course, be able
to find women who are exceptions to these
"rules." Don't worry about it. The bottom
line is, your interactions with women will go
more easily if you act as though these rules
are true.

1) Men often relate to women like they are
screwed up men.

Women are not just "screwed up men," or
"illogical men." They are women. If you
relate to women as if they were just screwed
up men, you'll always be trying to fix women
and always be trying to make them act the way
you wish they would act (that is, the way you
would act).

2) Women do not have Integrity.

Women do not have integrity the same way men
do. While men are more likely to have
integrity to their word, women are more
likely to have integrity to their feelings.
This means that if a woman's feelings tell
her to do something that is contrary to what
she said she'd do--such as showing up for a
date--she's likely to do what her feelings
tell her to, rather than to follow her
commitment.

Another way to say this is to say
that women are, on the whole, more committed
to doing what their emotions tell them than
they are to keeping their word.  Don't let
this drive you crazy. It's not bad, just
different than the way you are.

3) Changing their minds.

Women want to be able to change their minds
as much as they want, whenever they want, for
whatever reason they want or for no reason at
all. This may seem crazy or illogical to you,
but remember--she's following her feelings,
not her verbal commitments.

4)  Women use hints and innuendoes to tell you
what they want.

When you interact with women, don't expect
them to be direct with you about what they
want. Once again, this isn't being screwed
up, it's just a difference between the ways
men and women do things. This means that when
you ask women what they want, you should
provide a menu of options, rather than
expecting her to generate anything.

5) Women want life to be an unending date.

Women want things to be romantic, and in some
ways prefer an emotional roller coaster to
things being calm. Another way to say this is
to say that woman have a wide emotional
range, and want to express it fully.

6)  Women can be surprisingly mean.

Many men who've gone through a divorce have
found out how surprisingly mean women can be.
In some ways this is because women are more
invested in the concept of "fairness" than
men are. While you don't expect life to be
fair, and don't think about it much, the
women in your life very well might. So if you
feel shafted, you might not do much about
it...but if a woman feels shafted, often she
feels it's "only fair" for her to even the
score and take revenge.

7) Women often start, steer and end
relationships.

From time to time it's useful to consider the
possibility that women date you when they
want to, and get rid of you when they want
to, and will set you up to be the "bad guy"
when they are ready for the relationship to
end.

Warning: this is not an excuse to be a
jerk, and then to say, "She must have wanted
it that way." It's simply a useful
perspective to take from time to time; you
are still responsible for your actions.

8) Women want what they want when they want it
because they want it.

Asking a woman why she wants something, or,
even worse, why she doesn't, is always a
mistake. She wants it because she wants it.
Which, when you think about it, is basically
true for you, too. Give her the space to want
what she wants when she wants it because she
wants it, and don't let it drive you crazy if
it doesn't make sense to you.

Follow these rules and women will be much
less frustrating to you!


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