0 Insecurity | Attraction

I am going THEORETICAL on you!

Some big picture stuff to discuss today Schttrj.

First, a question:

Want to know why guys are unsuccessful with women?

It might masquerade as shyness, nerves, neediness, lack of
style,bad breath, body odor or just plain bad luck.

Want to know the real answer?

Its simple and its true:

Insecurity.

Lets accurately define security. Then, lets consider how this
relates to being attractive to women...cause, hey, that's why
we're here right?

Lets also try to keep this simple, because this is a topic I love
to discuss, and always devote a solid hour to talk about it
in seminar.

Let me give you MY definition of security:

A willingness to accept myself as I am,strengths and
weaknesses and then the determination to work towards
a healthy ideal for myself.

(pretty new-agey isn't it?)

A man who is secure realizes his weaknesses, and then
addresses them (kind of like you are doing with these newsletters).

Some weaknesses (better known as challenges) are tougher
to handle than others. A patient, deliberate effort may have
to follow.

If a guy has bad breath, for example, is it because
he just ate a dish filled with garlic or does he suffer from
gingivitis?

If its the garlic causing the problem, his problem is easily
remedied by a bit of time and some mouthwash. If he has gingivitis
or halitosis, the challenge becomes larger and will take more
time to surmount.

(Although, he should carry some Cool Mint
Listerine PocketPaks with him at all times)

A guy who is secure with himself likely never encounters a
challenge like bad breath, or if he does, he handles it right
away.

An insecure guy will be too lazy to take the action, or will
unconsciously reject the reality that he has bad breath.

His fragile self-esteem will not accept the information, thus he
continues to create bad impressions on other people due to his
own unwillingness.

This mini-example can translate to virtually
any challenge which we encounter through our lives.

If you are unaware of a challenge you have, and yet you are
not having success with women...well, guess what?

You have CHALLENGES you need to address.

The only way to find them out is through experience.

You gotta get out there, in other words and see what happens.

Most guys live lives that are so out of balance, that a woman
might initially like you, but when she eventually sees the chaos
that follows you around (whether it be bad breath, flailing
friendships, insecurity, lack of focus, endless hours surfing
the web, messy apartment, the list goes on) she will never
really see you as a viable companion because she knows,
intuitively, and biologically,that you are not a man in the
truest sense.

You are not someone who can provide security
thus you are not attractive to her.

Women are innately chaotic internally - their emotional
center tends to dominate. A major part of their screening
mechanism for men is SECURE or INSECURE...

If you think I am f.o.s. (full of s&%$), you are sorely mistaken
Schttrj.

Here is where we separate the men from the boys.

The boys right now are thinking, This is a load of BS. A bunch
of feel good jargon.This will never work for me.

They are right, it never will until they decide to face their
lives and live like a man.

A man sees this and realizes that it is time, now, to step up
to the plate and take responsibility. He sees that he can get
what is rightfully his. That time is now.

Women are seeking a man who is secure with himself, and
is able to provide it to her consistently.

This - and ONLY this - allows for her to trust him, and give
herself to him in a relationship.

If that's what you are looking for Schttrj, then you'd better
pay close attention to this topic.

A secure man reflects that security with everything he
does.

He is always in control, and sensitive to the needs of the
moment.

He rises to the occasion, and has a focused purpose in his life.

He is comfortable in his own skin. His life naturally validates
him internally (negating any need to seek validation externally), and
he feels complete.

He is naturally attractive.

So, when you give that guy the ten magically perfect things to
say to a woman, he only needs five, and even then he has overdone
it.

Let me be clear, I am not saying that you have to be rich or to
have fully realized all of your goals in order to be successful
with women.

What I am saying is that it is critical to be on the path
pursuing your goals. Men who live with passion and direction
are magnets for women because they are attractive.

Quality, attractive women are desperate for men whose lives
are focused, balanced, and on purpose.

In conclusion: The single most perfect piece of advice that I
can give you is: You Must Get Your Life In Order And Moving
Forward To Have Anything Close To A Meaningful Relationship
With A Quality Woman.

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